5.0 out of 5 stars It finally clicked

J.m. · February 12, 2025

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5.0 out of 5 stars A Must Read for Anyone Trying to Break Away from Codependency

C.N. · November 4, 2024

Ray Sol's Codependent to Independent is an invaluable guide for anyone seeking to increase their self-worth and break free from dependent relationships. This book not only defines codependency but also showsowing how family dynamics can set the stage for these behaviors. It provides clear, practical steps to help readers identify the signs of codependency in their relationships.The author offers practical steps for readers to rediscover their identity, establish healthy boundaries, and build fulfilling relationships. The real-world examples and insightful journaling prompts transform reading into active self-reflection and motivation to change actual behavior.Ray’s approach is refreshingly non-judgmental, making the book inviting and supportive. One of the standout aspects of this book is its focus on reclaiming self-worth and rediscovering one’s identity. Unlike many books that stop at defining codependency, Codependent to Independent goes further, offering actual steps and strategies that set it apart. In essence, Codependent to Independent is a must-read for anyone ready to take control of their life, break free from codependent behavior patterns, and foster independence without sacrificing healthy connections.

5.0 out of 5 stars Transformational book that digs deep and supports change

S. · February 15, 2025

I really love this book. It was not an easy read in the sense that the anecdotes, questions and exercises made me confront the uncomfortable part of myself, but it was necessary. You can feel the author's compassion from the way he writes and I really appreciate it. Highly recommended.

5.0 out of 5 stars Codependent assessments and plans of action

B.B. · February 15, 2025

I gave this book a 5 because it is a through, complete book on codependency, with check list and assessments. You will know if you a co-dependent before you have finished the book.

4.0 out of 5 stars Insightful

J. · February 15, 2025

This is a straightforward and accessible guide for people who are looking to break free from codependent patterns and establish healthier relationships. I thought the stories and exercises which Sol wrote about were practical and relatable. The book provides clear steps for setting boundaries and improving self-worth. While the content is very useful, some sections feel a bit surface-level. I think readers looking for more in-depth psychological analysis may find themselves wanting more depth. With that being said, I still highly recommend this book.

5.0 out of 5 stars Good book for those who need it!

K. · October 22, 2024

I sent this book to my friend who is currently going through a tough divorce. She is already at the point where she knows things were bad in the relationship, but what helped was when I sent this and asked her to have a look through the first few pages, where it has a bullet point list to help you identify a co dependant relationship. For her, this was something eye opening, or rather validating to her situation. But overall this book has been a great help to her - now as she takes the steps to overcoming the relationship, and learning that she is strong on her own two feet, and that the codependency wasn't 'loving acts' but manipulation to make her feel weak.

5.0 out of 5 stars Good read if you are looking to be independent

D.N. · February 14, 2025

This book helped to set boundaries in my relationships. I loved the stories that were provided in the book and the exercises. I truly learnt a lot about how to be independent.

5.0 out of 5 stars Helpful prompts for active reading!

K. · October 20, 2024

I have found this book to be extremely helpful in my healing journey. Ray has included insightful journaling prompts thru out the book allowing for active reading and relating the material to your own behaviors. I appreciate all the real world examples used as it makes it more relatable than just information being thrown at you.It’s sectioned out clearly making it easy to jump back into sections you may want to revisit.I have been going to CoDA and nervous to take the first steps to finding a sponsor and working the steps but working thru the prompts in this book have helped me uncover things in my past that make moving forward in group feel less daunting.Thank you!

Great Journalling and Workbook Tools to Get You on The Right Track to Becoming Your Best Self!

O.R. · January 3, 2025

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A Genuine, Life-Changing Guide

N. · November 29, 2024

This book couldn’t have come at a better time for me. This book by Ray Sol is one of those rare reads that feels like it’s speaking directly to you. It offers practical, step-by-step ways to work through it, all while being incredibly relatable and easy to follow.The journaling prompts were especially helpful. Instead of just reading, I found myself pausing and reflecting deeply on my own experiences. This book helped me with an active process of understanding myself better. The section on boundaries was a turning point for me; it gave me clear, actionable advice that I could start applying right away.What I loved most is how the book constantly reassures you that progress isn’t about perfection. It’s honest about the ups and downs of this kind of journey, and that’s what made it feel so real and approachable. The tone is warm, supportive, and encouraging—like having a wise friend guide you through something difficult.If you’ve ever struggled with putting others before yourself or feeling lost in relationships, this book is a must-read. It’s already made a big difference in my life, and I know I’ll keep coming back to it as I grow. Highly recommend it for anyone ready to start putting themselves first.

Life-Changing Guide to Emotional Freedom and Self-Worth

C.W. · December 26, 2024

Many years ago I read a book called “Women who Love too Much,” and immediately identified myself as a codependent, just like the symptoms described in this book. I wish I’d had then all the empowering tools described in this book to help me break free sooner.If you’ve ever felt lost in relationships, constantly putting others' needs ahead of your own or seeking external validation, Codependent to Independent is the book you’ve been waiting for. This empowering guide provides a clear path to breaking free from the patterns of codependency and reclaiming your sense of self.Through relatable stories and practical exercises, the author offers a compassionate approach to understanding and overcoming codependent behaviors. What I found most impactful is how the book explains the roots of codependency, often linked to family dynamics, and provides clear guidance on how to heal those wounds. It’s not just about identifying the problem; it’s about finding solutions that foster personal growth and healthier connections.The book is filled with actionable advice, from setting healthy boundaries to building stronger, more fulfilling relationships. It also emphasizes self-care and mindfulness techniques that support emotional well-being, making it a comprehensive resource for anyone seeking to transform their life.What makes Codependent to Independent stand out is its focus on rediscovering self-worth. Instead of relying on others for approval, it teaches readers how to cultivate confidence and independence from within. The step-by-step approach ensures that even the most overwhelmed readers can find clarity and take actionable steps toward emotional freedom.This book isn’t just for those in codependent relationships—it’s for anyone looking to strengthen their sense of self and create healthier connections. If you’re ready to prioritize your needs, set boundaries, and live a more independent, confident life, this guide is a must-read.Take the first step toward emotional freedom and start living a life defined by your own worth. Highly recommended!

A wonderfully written book well worthy enjoyment of reading

c.H. · January 4, 2025

I really enjoyed reading the whole book. It was extremely well written and well researched. It was an enjoyable read. And importantly I learned a lot about the signs of being in a codependent relationship. What are the red flags what to look for and what causes codependent relationships. Equally importantly it has a lot of very practical and easy answers and solutions strategies. It is a workbook right through asking you to reflect and journal with important prompts. Highly recommend this book for everyone actually because it really does highlight the importance of parenting styles and how your attachment style to your child is critical to them growing up with a healthy sense of self-worth so that they form healthy relationships with other people, express their needs and boundaries and do not have codependent behaviours. Excellent book highly recommended.

Wonderful reaource!

N.Y. · November 17, 2024

This is a great read that is full of useful advice and support. It is well weitten and structurex and very easy to follow. The exercises, quizez and prompts are excellent and I was surprised to find out more about myself that was new to me! I might be codependent! It focuses on self love, boundaries and taking little steps. I really cam recommend this book!