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This book is a must-read for anyone who works with children or young people. Teachers, youth workers and support staff at the beginning of their careers will discover a wide range of useful strategies and explanations as they begin to tackle the sometimes mystifying behaviours exhibited by young people today. More seasoned leaders are guaranteed to find behaviour management gems that will both enhance and strengthen their toolkit. Paul s writing is incisive and challenging; it successfully conveys a clear sense of his extensive and dedicated experience of all sectors of education. I am particularly pleased to see his recognition of the wealth of valuable experience and excellent practice that can be found amongst staff who work within the alternative provision sector, who have long been undervalued. Each chapter of this book is themed and concludes with three helpful checklists Testing, Watch out for and Nuggets which the reader will return to again and again for reference. --Seamus Oates, CBE, CEO, TBAP Multi-Academy Trust
This book is a game changer. Your students need you to read When the Adults Change, Everything Changes. Reading this book is like sitting down and having a coffee and a chat with Paul Dix while he lays out a road map showing you how to avoid pitfalls and transform lives. Rather than a list of quick behaviour tips, it offers a how-to mindset shift that sets staff (and students) up to win. If you came into teaching to make a difference, make this the next book you read. It s typically generous of Paul to create such a gift of a resource for trainees, teachers and veterans alike a blueprint for building authentic relationships with students, even in seemingly impossible situations. On a personal note, teachers like Paul (and like you if you choose to read this fantastic book) literally saved my life. It s not easy being a hero, but this book gives you all of the tools and wisdom you need to put your intentions into action. --Jaz Ampaw-Farr, speaker, author and Resilience Ninja
About the Author
As a teacher, leader and teacher trainer, Paul Dix has been working to transform the most difficult behaviour in the most challenging urban schools, referral units and colleges for the last 25 years. Miraculously, Paul trained at Homerton College, Cambridge, after countless attempts to sabotage his own education. He then moved on to work in ‘tricky’ schools in East London, Nuneaton and Birmingham.
In addition to working directly with schools, Paul has advised the Department for Education on the teachers’ standards, given evidence to the Education Select Committee and done extensive work with the Ministry of Justice on behaviour and restraint in youth custody. He has published five books on behaviour and assessment, in addition to over 250 articles on behaviour. Paul won a national training award in 2009 for his work in helping a school transform from ‘failing’ to ‘good’ in just nine months. He also chairs the board of directors of a multi-academy trust which comprises 11 special schools – a role he undertakes voluntarily – and leads the #BanTheBooths campaign (www.banthebooths.co.uk).
Reviews:
5.0 out of 5 stars An essential read for anyone working with, or interested in, behaviour in schools
One option available to schools and other organisations to whom the behaviour of children and young people is a priority is to adopt the so-called 'No Excuses' approach. Paul Dix makes it very clear that he is opposed to the 'No Excuses' approach and it's “ugly deterrents”. He has a disregard for ‘Zero Tolerance’ too, which, he argues, inevitably leads to increased punishments and ultimate exclusion. He also calls out the damaging interventions of, what he refers to as, "the punishment brigade". Paul Dix believes in - and describes - a different way. This book is about that different way.The author proposes the development of a culture in schools where positive routines and practical strategies create support and certainty. He vehemently argues that schools - all types of schools - should create a culture that promotes visible consistency, botheredness and kindness; a culture where young people are “ready, respectful and safe”. It is also a reflective culture that asks questions like, ‘what would it be like if adults refused to shout?’ ‘what would it be like if we focused positive attention on effort and not on achievement?’ ‘what would it be like if, when appropriate, the adults said sorry?’ The author is interested in how changes like this can and will have a positive impact upon behaviour in the school?What Paul Dix has achieved in this book is to challenge and move beyond inherently problematic adult-constructed systemic impositions on young people. He offers a radically different vision and perspective where adults in every school take a look at their own behaviour and how that impacts upon school culture regarding behaviour and wider. The author is not saying that “difficult” or “extreme behaviour” is the fault of teachers. In fact, he asserts that schools should support teachers who are dealing with such challenges. His proposition is that the only behaviour that adults can have complete control over is their own. The title of the book illustrates what he thinks happens when adults do take control of their own behaviour.The writing is forthright – for example, Chapter 10 is called “Your Behaviour Policy Sucks”. The author puts forward a simple solution so that weighty and meaningless behaviour policy documents can be banished from schools. The book is realistic – for example, things do not always go well and therefore restorative approaches are detailed should they be needed. The individuality of young people is respected throughout – for example, the reader is encouraged to think about what might be going on in the life of some children and how that can impact upon their behaviour. The whole tone of the book is passionate and optimistic – change can happen and this book will help it to happen.On the back cover of the book Paul Dix is described as a 'notorious teacher-wrangler'.If you are a teacher, especially one interested in behaviour, you should definitely buy this book and enjoy being wrangled.You'll have laughs along the way too.
5.0 out of 5 stars Brilliant!
It's so good to see a distinguished academic picking up on and amplifying what I've said for years. As a mentor of ECTs, I insist that the best way to teach is the way that works for you. There is no one way of teaching - we all have strengths and weaknesses. However, I will not stand by and watch new teachers yelling at students and expecting them to show respect. That approach simply makes no sense, and Dix superbly highlights why. The one thing we can control is our reaction to the horrendous behavior we sometimes encounter. Although he didn't explicitly outline this point, I suspect he knows full well the difference between punishment and discipline. The latter teaches children why disruptive behavior must be challenged, and he has ways of steering students towards a more positive MO.I disagree with him over zero-tolerance policies, which he seems to believe are incompatible with teachers having compassion for young people. I disagree because I am compassionate and caring, but I cannot see how we best serve all of our students while letting some of them be disruptive. However, I'm sure Dix is someone that our new Secretary of State for education needs to meet. Great job.
5.0 out of 5 stars Highly recommended
Definitely recommended. As an NQT this book has been exactly what I needed. While I am in a school with mostly good behaviour (no extreme bad behaviour), I've still been struggling with some classes. I'm not a natural disciplinarian at all and trying to force myself to be that way has not felt good. This book takes the complete opposite approach to behaviour, by putting the good first, taking away the negative emotions and focusing on building relationships with students. I've only implemented a couple of ideas so far and not for very long, but it's already been a breakthrough in my teaching practice. This approach is effective and is much more enjoyable than 'not smiling before christmas!'
4.0 out of 5 stars Very well written
This book is ideal for all staff in a school to read. It empowers class teachers and gives an honest account of what work and doesn’t work in the context of behaviour management. It provides the right balance of suggested change with research and explanation. Reading this as an ASN teacher was reassuring and helpful. It could be what all teachers need to become more inclusive in their approach and to ensure every child and young person has the access to education in a nurturing and informed environment.
5.0 out of 5 stars A must read for educators and policy makers
Wow!I just read this book in 3 1/2 hours without getting up from my chair. I now have pages of notes, a to-do page for some individuals and ideas for while school behaviour policy reform.This book is brimming with sound advice but still readable. Some anecdotes had me chuckling, others made me angry or sad as I've seen them happening in my children's schools.Every teacher needs to read this, every SLT and SENDCo needs to enforce the messages from this. As a parent I wish this strongly for today's children and as a teacher I can think of colleagues for whom this would be second nature and others who would need a little nudge, but don't we all want the best for the children in our care?Buy it.
5.0 out of 5 stars Easy to read and inspiring.
Easy to read and inspiring. Makes behavioural management achievable and offers positive procedures to encourage students to perform their best and enjoy learning.
Powerful Read...
This is a great book. Heard it recommended countless times on different educational podcasts. I am an assistant principal and I am always looking for ways to help our teachers grow in the area of classroom management. I am also looking to grow as a restorative leader. This book provides a lot of powerful talking points and easy to use strategies. I highly recommend for any educator. One of the best educational books I have read in a long time.
Students don't learn much from people they don't like
I love this book by UK author Paul Dix. He really captures the importance of positive relationships between a teacher and a student. Many schools emphasise the 'consequences' aspect of their behaviour management plans and have increasing levels of 'punishment' for students who don't meet expectations. However this can create a disconnection and a power struggle that limits the student's learning. Dix highlights the point that students don't learn much from people they don't like. I am a firm believer that as educators we are in the 'people business' and that relationships are REALLY important. My favourite read of the summer!
Don't be afraid of change!
I REALLY APPRECIATE THIS BOOK . . .GREAT INFO FOR SOME SCHOOL STAFF WHO THINK THEY KNOW IT ALL.
Excellent read
We are using the pivotal method in our schoolNot all ideas suitable for us but many that we can adapt and useHaving taught in the English system it brought back memoriesEntertaining thought provoking read
It’s up to us
Paul gave true anecdotes that will work. Remain consistent, it is achievable and find the small things in the hardest students
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Description:
Review
This book is a must-read for anyone who works with children or young people. Teachers, youth workers and support staff at the beginning of their careers will discover a wide range of useful strategies and explanations as they begin to tackle the sometimes mystifying behaviours exhibited by young people today. More seasoned leaders are guaranteed to find behaviour management gems that will both enhance and strengthen their toolkit. Paul s writing is incisive and challenging; it successfully conveys a clear sense of his extensive and dedicated experience of all sectors of education. I am particularly pleased to see his recognition of the wealth of valuable experience and excellent practice that can be found amongst staff who work within the alternative provision sector, who have long been undervalued. Each chapter of this book is themed and concludes with three helpful checklists Testing, Watch out for and Nuggets which the reader will return to again and again for reference. --Seamus Oates, CBE, CEO, TBAP Multi-Academy Trust
This book is a game changer. Your students need you to read When the Adults Change, Everything Changes. Reading this book is like sitting down and having a coffee and a chat with Paul Dix while he lays out a road map showing you how to avoid pitfalls and transform lives. Rather than a list of quick behaviour tips, it offers a how-to mindset shift that sets staff (and students) up to win. If you came into teaching to make a difference, make this the next book you read. It s typically generous of Paul to create such a gift of a resource for trainees, teachers and veterans alike a blueprint for building authentic relationships with students, even in seemingly impossible situations. On a personal note, teachers like Paul (and like you if you choose to read this fantastic book) literally saved my life. It s not easy being a hero, but this book gives you all of the tools and wisdom you need to put your intentions into action. --Jaz Ampaw-Farr, speaker, author and Resilience Ninja
About the Author
As a teacher, leader and teacher trainer, Paul Dix has been working to transform the most difficult behaviour in the most challenging urban schools, referral units and colleges for the last 25 years. Miraculously, Paul trained at Homerton College, Cambridge, after countless attempts to sabotage his own education. He then moved on to work in ‘tricky’ schools in East London, Nuneaton and Birmingham.
In addition to working directly with schools, Paul has advised the Department for Education on the teachers’ standards, given evidence to the Education Select Committee and done extensive work with the Ministry of Justice on behaviour and restraint in youth custody. He has published five books on behaviour and assessment, in addition to over 250 articles on behaviour. Paul won a national training award in 2009 for his work in helping a school transform from ‘failing’ to ‘good’ in just nine months. He also chairs the board of directors of a multi-academy trust which comprises 11 special schools – a role he undertakes voluntarily – and leads the #BanTheBooths campaign (www.banthebooths.co.uk).
Reviews:
5.0 out of 5 stars An essential read for anyone working with, or interested in, behaviour in schools
One option available to schools and other organisations to whom the behaviour of children and young people is a priority is to adopt the so-called 'No Excuses' approach. Paul Dix makes it very clear that he is opposed to the 'No Excuses' approach and it's “ugly deterrents”. He has a disregard for ‘Zero Tolerance’ too, which, he argues, inevitably leads to increased punishments and ultimate exclusion. He also calls out the damaging interventions of, what he refers to as, "the punishment brigade". Paul Dix believes in - and describes - a different way. This book is about that different way.The author proposes the development of a culture in schools where positive routines and practical strategies create support and certainty. He vehemently argues that schools - all types of schools - should create a culture that promotes visible consistency, botheredness and kindness; a culture where young people are “ready, respectful and safe”. It is also a reflective culture that asks questions like, ‘what would it be like if adults refused to shout?’ ‘what would it be like if we focused positive attention on effort and not on achievement?’ ‘what would it be like if, when appropriate, the adults said sorry?’ The author is interested in how changes like this can and will have a positive impact upon behaviour in the school?What Paul Dix has achieved in this book is to challenge and move beyond inherently problematic adult-constructed systemic impositions on young people. He offers a radically different vision and perspective where adults in every school take a look at their own behaviour and how that impacts upon school culture regarding behaviour and wider. The author is not saying that “difficult” or “extreme behaviour” is the fault of teachers. In fact, he asserts that schools should support teachers who are dealing with such challenges. His proposition is that the only behaviour that adults can have complete control over is their own. The title of the book illustrates what he thinks happens when adults do take control of their own behaviour.The writing is forthright – for example, Chapter 10 is called “Your Behaviour Policy Sucks”. The author puts forward a simple solution so that weighty and meaningless behaviour policy documents can be banished from schools. The book is realistic – for example, things do not always go well and therefore restorative approaches are detailed should they be needed. The individuality of young people is respected throughout – for example, the reader is encouraged to think about what might be going on in the life of some children and how that can impact upon their behaviour. The whole tone of the book is passionate and optimistic – change can happen and this book will help it to happen.On the back cover of the book Paul Dix is described as a 'notorious teacher-wrangler'.If you are a teacher, especially one interested in behaviour, you should definitely buy this book and enjoy being wrangled.You'll have laughs along the way too.
5.0 out of 5 stars Brilliant!
It's so good to see a distinguished academic picking up on and amplifying what I've said for years. As a mentor of ECTs, I insist that the best way to teach is the way that works for you. There is no one way of teaching - we all have strengths and weaknesses. However, I will not stand by and watch new teachers yelling at students and expecting them to show respect. That approach simply makes no sense, and Dix superbly highlights why. The one thing we can control is our reaction to the horrendous behavior we sometimes encounter. Although he didn't explicitly outline this point, I suspect he knows full well the difference between punishment and discipline. The latter teaches children why disruptive behavior must be challenged, and he has ways of steering students towards a more positive MO.I disagree with him over zero-tolerance policies, which he seems to believe are incompatible with teachers having compassion for young people. I disagree because I am compassionate and caring, but I cannot see how we best serve all of our students while letting some of them be disruptive. However, I'm sure Dix is someone that our new Secretary of State for education needs to meet. Great job.
5.0 out of 5 stars Highly recommended
Definitely recommended. As an NQT this book has been exactly what I needed. While I am in a school with mostly good behaviour (no extreme bad behaviour), I've still been struggling with some classes. I'm not a natural disciplinarian at all and trying to force myself to be that way has not felt good. This book takes the complete opposite approach to behaviour, by putting the good first, taking away the negative emotions and focusing on building relationships with students. I've only implemented a couple of ideas so far and not for very long, but it's already been a breakthrough in my teaching practice. This approach is effective and is much more enjoyable than 'not smiling before christmas!'
4.0 out of 5 stars Very well written
This book is ideal for all staff in a school to read. It empowers class teachers and gives an honest account of what work and doesn’t work in the context of behaviour management. It provides the right balance of suggested change with research and explanation. Reading this as an ASN teacher was reassuring and helpful. It could be what all teachers need to become more inclusive in their approach and to ensure every child and young person has the access to education in a nurturing and informed environment.
5.0 out of 5 stars A must read for educators and policy makers
Wow!I just read this book in 3 1/2 hours without getting up from my chair. I now have pages of notes, a to-do page for some individuals and ideas for while school behaviour policy reform.This book is brimming with sound advice but still readable. Some anecdotes had me chuckling, others made me angry or sad as I've seen them happening in my children's schools.Every teacher needs to read this, every SLT and SENDCo needs to enforce the messages from this. As a parent I wish this strongly for today's children and as a teacher I can think of colleagues for whom this would be second nature and others who would need a little nudge, but don't we all want the best for the children in our care?Buy it.
5.0 out of 5 stars Easy to read and inspiring.
Easy to read and inspiring. Makes behavioural management achievable and offers positive procedures to encourage students to perform their best and enjoy learning.
Powerful Read...
This is a great book. Heard it recommended countless times on different educational podcasts. I am an assistant principal and I am always looking for ways to help our teachers grow in the area of classroom management. I am also looking to grow as a restorative leader. This book provides a lot of powerful talking points and easy to use strategies. I highly recommend for any educator. One of the best educational books I have read in a long time.
Students don't learn much from people they don't like
I love this book by UK author Paul Dix. He really captures the importance of positive relationships between a teacher and a student. Many schools emphasise the 'consequences' aspect of their behaviour management plans and have increasing levels of 'punishment' for students who don't meet expectations. However this can create a disconnection and a power struggle that limits the student's learning. Dix highlights the point that students don't learn much from people they don't like. I am a firm believer that as educators we are in the 'people business' and that relationships are REALLY important. My favourite read of the summer!
Don't be afraid of change!
I REALLY APPRECIATE THIS BOOK . . .GREAT INFO FOR SOME SCHOOL STAFF WHO THINK THEY KNOW IT ALL.
Excellent read
We are using the pivotal method in our schoolNot all ideas suitable for us but many that we can adapt and useHaving taught in the English system it brought back memoriesEntertaining thought provoking read
It’s up to us
Paul gave true anecdotes that will work. Remain consistent, it is achievable and find the small things in the hardest students
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