5.0 out of 5 stars I particularly like how Eric Bern gives realistic scenarios that I instantly ...

T. · 29 July 2016

This is a fabulous book. When I was younger, my mum used to read the old 'I'm OK, you're OK' series. When I started questioning myself to see whether things that were being told to me that they were my fault, I realised that this was part of this whole transactional analysis model of critical parent, nurturing and child roles that we all play in society. It is a way of recognising that you are able to change how you feel about yourself by slowly changing your role in this triad.I particularly like how Eric Bern gives realistic scenarios that I instantly identified with. It make me understand the underlying fears of the oppressor and gave practical advice to turn things around. In reality, it won't change things overnight, but it will certainly help to empower you and make you progressively stronger. Today, I realise that that was the 'old me'. I am a far stronger person now. I thank people like Dr Eric Bern and others for helping me to escape the lower points of my life.Although this is a book based in transactional analysis, it is well written and is an enjoyable read. I would recommend it to anyone who has ever gone through times when others were trying to tell you what you should think about yourself as a form of psychological control.Please let me know if this review has been helpful. Feel free to make useful suggestions for improvement​. Thanks.

5.0 out of 5 stars Or: how to spot a creep at 20 paces.

A. · 26 August 2014

Insightful! I bought a second copy and gave it to a friend with the surtitle, 'How to spot a w*nker'.Eric Berne created Transactional Analysis, and this was one of his first texts on the subject. It details particular behaviours and strategies used by people to get the outcome they want, whether that's gaining attention, legitimising their anger, or something genuinely positive like helping others.It also helped me to become aware of 'games' I play, and to unlearn some of that social programming.It's a provocative text, not meant to be taken as the last word in psychology, but a fascinating and useful way of exploring the hidden needs and agendas behind behaviour.

4.0 out of 5 stars useful insight

B.i.o. · 14 February 2014

some things we know subconsciously, and when explained articulately we feel enlightenedeveryone knows someone stuck in a rut with a script they follow that they should tear up - this book holds up the mirror and allows us to see the workings and detail

5.0 out of 5 stars Brilliant

D. · 14 February 2012

I got this book as I am studying Transactional Analysis, where best to start but with this book, written by the maker of TA. It's a great book if you are interested in TA or not, though can be quite hard to read as a base for your interest (I would recommend I'm OK You're OK also) < & possibly read that first or with this. All in all great for anybody interested in learing about themselves and others with regards to communication and the games we all play...

3.0 out of 5 stars A little disappointed if Im honest

A. · 1 April 2012

This book just isnt as interesting as I was hoping it would be.... small print and I just could not get into it at all....The book is clearly very old and it did have a little bit of Chinese hand writing on the front page inside the book??The front cover is also that faded at first I thought I had recieved a different book to the one I had ordered....This isnt a book I would recommend to be honest..... I feel there are so many others out there that are much more interesting for the same thing.

5.0 out of 5 stars One for the kids!

D.C. · 10 September 2012

OK, I'll admit that if your kids read this, they could end up running rings round you, but at least they will know why they are doing it.This is a classic best seller about real world Transactional Analysis, a fascinating subject in itself. You will be surprised at how early your behavior as parents affects your child's emotional development, and if you catch yourself in time it may even stop you doing them further damage. I believe all parents should have a copy of this given to them with their first child.

5.0 out of 5 stars eye opening...

M. · 30 September 2010

Brilliant book! really opens the eyes to how/why people act how they do in situations, i find myself comparing people and situations in my everyday life to the book. Its good to see from outside the normal box.I ordered this book as im starting a distance learning a-level and eventually degree.I think it was a nice place to start for some reading prior to the course.M.D.Brown25North Yorkshire

4.0 out of 5 stars Useful

S. · 13 May 2015

Although some of the content feels a little dated, this little book has certainly helped me to avoid playing along with some common "mind games" that I would otherwise have played into like a sucker. Not only are there examples of loads of these games, but practical advice on how to avoid falling into the traps set by people!(As an aside, if you combine the game-recognition in this book with the techniques in Nonviolent Communication, you can help others and yourself).

Estado de conservação

A.A. · 12 November 2024

A entrega demorou bem mais que o prazo iincial dado, que foi estendido. Chegou com algumas marcas de desgaste na capa, como se fosse um ivro usado.

Deep, Intense, Engaging...

H.K. · 16 July 2020

It will take multiple readings to truly comprehend the book. The language is bit complicated. The book is deeply intertwined so as you proceed with reading remember the learnings of the previous chapters. Concepts may seem vague, perplexing but it will make sense, ultimately. This book will drive extreme opinions from readers, overwhelming majority will either like it & agree or dislike & disagree. It is my humble request to fellow readers to please keep your opinions to yourself and don't unnecessarily put them here in reviews. Let future readers enjoy the book without any bias. Happy Reading.The pages and print quality of the book is good.

Fantastic Read

K.P. · 3 September 2023

Though this book was written decades ago, it's easily relatable to current times. Many may consider this pop or pseudo-psychology now, I still believe its content is relevant.In my opinion, the author wrote from a position of the reader having at least a general understanding of psychology and psychiatry, which he has stated in the book. So, because I have this understanding, I don't have much difficulty with this theory.There are times when the author mentions something that warrants me to either reread a previous section to gain clarity or to be patient for the author to provide clarity in an upcoming section.I felt the first half of the book was a lackluster read, but it's important to stick with it and understand it prior to moving forward.I was recommended this book by my mother, who was exposed to it when it was published, which helped her improve her interactions with others. I appreciate the recommendation because I am also experiencing the benefits. Therefore, I also recommend this book to others.

Illuminante

D.B. · 22 November 2023

Il libro è molto interessante, siamo intrisi nei nostri giochi e spesso non ci rendiamo conto di quali sono le dinamiche che ci girano attorno. Ma questo è, come dice l'autore all'inizio, un libro per smettere giocare nel caso in cui finiamo dentro a una di queste situazioni che sono energivore per chi le subisce.A me ha aiutato e mi ha aiutato anche a capire chi ho intorno. Chi fa i giochi talvolta non se ne rende conto, metterli di fronte ai fatti è una doccia di realtà.Raccomandato!

Excellent read

M.N. · 9 September 2023

An excellent book that makes you reflect on human relationships. The "games" are as actual as ever. Lots to learn from this book.